Don't Let the Labels Hold you Back

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This commercial resonates with me.  And I believe many men and women alike, have been mislabeled.  The guy who doesn't speak much and is shy gets labeled arrogant.  The female who laughs alot doesn't take it seriously, or speaks her mind and is labeled a know-it-all.

The best thing I have learned over the years is to be honest with yourself about your personality quirks and other peoples' perceptions of you.  Just be honest with yourself that you are the salesman in the room.  In brainstorming session sometimes I remind the stakeholders, "Hey I am in sales - sometimes I don't know how to have a conversation without selling my ideas or thoughts.  It doesn't mean I am right or that I am absolutely sold on my own idea, I just can't help but sell you when it comes out of my mouth."  So the next thing I tell them is, "Don't let me SELL you on a policy if you KNOW I am wrong."  And I mean it.

This video is a reminder to me that some labels are accurate and some just wrong!  So regardless of the label, be aware of the fact that you are being labeled.  Don't hide from the labels, but rather face them and choose to own them, correct them, or live up to them.

I used to be labeled as bossy, but over the years I have learned to change people's perception to think of me more as a delegator.   :-) No really it is true, they just think I delegate alot.  I figured out how to change what I say from: "Mike - go get the rental car for our trip" to something like "Mike, since you are arriving earlier would you mind picking up the rental car for us?"  Ahhhh - all in the delivery ladies, all in the delivery.

So let me encourage you to make note of the labels people have on you.  Decide whether you like those labels or want to change them; decide if they are within your control to change or not.  I didn't like being bossy, so I worked on my delivery.  I own the fact that I am salesy, so I educate those around me to not let that get us in trouble.

How do you handle the labels?  Please - take the time to tell me about a label that has been placed on you.  Tell me - how did you handle it?  Did you own it, fight it, or work to change it?  I truly want to know!


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