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28 Oct 2013 Written by LauraGiveMe10 In

Is a Failed Goal Better Than No Goal at All?

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a guide to doing anything: jugglingI'm in a spiral. That's what my husband called it and he's right. I've gotten so into my head about potential failure at this goal I've set that I'm paralyzed. And then that crisis of confidence leeches into other areas of life, too. Basically my mojo is non-existent -- it's not just skill-based things that challenge me anymore, it's daily necessities like parallel parking and finding my cell phone. Does this ever happen to you?

It all started back on October 1st with three bean bags and a dream -- I was going to learn to juggle. How hard could it be? Watch a couple of videos. Put in the required time. And then boom -- I'm a juggler.

Sounded so easy. Instead, I've been trying too hard, and am way too anxious to say, "Look, I learned to juggle in a month and you can, too!" I've completely psyched myself out. Even the simplest throws that I mastered weeks ago I'm a mess with now.

My family is trying to be supportive but their comfort boils down to, "If you're not having fun, just stop." And "Does it really matter if you can juggle?" Of course that's true, but what does it say when you can't master juggling?

07 Oct 2013 Written by LauraGiveMe10 In

Can a Lackluster Golf Game Be Saved?

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How much can you improve in a sport in just 10 minutes a day? For the sake of my pride, I needed to know. Every month I pick a different goal and spend 10 minutes a day on it. The goal is almost always motivated by frustration – a perpetually messy house inspired Declutter Month; not having a handle on our finances led to Money Month.

05 Sep 2013 Written by LauraGiveMe10 In

Keeping All the Balls in the Air, or "Calgon, take me away!"

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I'm dating myself to reference the 70s commercial starring the frazzled working mother longing for a break from a day of obligations. No doubt why it's a classic -- everyone can relate. Even though I was a kid when the commercial aired, I could see my own mom and other moms, and even I knew Calgon wouldn't be enough. Having parented three kids for the last 14 years, one dog for the last two, as well as managed and supported the people and services that orbit around them (husband, friends, work, school, community involvement, vet, etc.), it's easy to see there are just too many balls in the air. 

Usually I can maintain a somewhat awkward juggle of most, with some inevitably falling for a while until I can get them back in play. Very rarely have I felt like all the balls were in the air -- and when they were, I looked like one of those out-of-control jugglers stumbling around trying to catch bowling pins that went off course. How undignified! My life feels a bit like that game where you try to get everything to fit and just when you think you have, one piece pops out. I'll take three hours to really clean up the kids' rooms, but that means I didn't have time to make dinner. Or I'll spend an afternoon writing a report, but then I have no idea what's going on in the news that day. So I go from feeling elated that I made headway on something like the rooms or the desk, only to feel dejected soon after that there's no dinner or downtime.

10 Jul 2013 Written by LauraGiveMe10 In

I'm Not as Chic a CEO as I'd Like to Be...

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But I’m getting better… I'm on Week 2 of my July goal to build a personal Financial Fact Sheet. I’m creating a one-sheet of all the key financial data for our family. I am embarrassed to say that until now the financial info has been here, there and everywhere. I know I can get my hands on it, but don’t ask me to tell you our insurance deductible, or checking account rate. I know you won’t ask me this at a cocktail party because you’re kind and it’s boring. But, really, isn't part of being "chic" having my finger on the pulse of the family finances?

02 Jul 2013 Written by LauraGiveMe10 In

Create a Financial Health Fact Sheet

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We are smart women. We are financially responsible. Yet we -- or maybe I should just say I -- am not as on top of my finances as I should be. There is a dizzying array of financial info I should have at my fingertips but instead struggle to manage -- or flagrantly avoid. If I'm managing a family of 5, I should know how much we have saved for retirement as readily as I know if we need to put cereal on the shopping list, or where the baseball cleats are. I should spend at least as much time managing our finances as I do planning a dinner party or preparing for a board meeting. But somehow all those other things are easier to grasp and more immediate than if we can pay for college or if we have a higher mortgage rate than we need to. The truth is, I feel all at the same time overwhelmed, scared and hopelessly bored at the thought of doing a deep dive into finances.


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